Can We Just Talk About Lady Gaga For A Second?


The recent (continued?) speculation and commentary on Lady Gaga’s body has been weighing (excuse the terrible pun) heavily on me this week. While watching her Superbowl performance, slack-jawed and in awe of her presence, voice and everything-Gaga, I didn’t once look at her body critically.

Yet, sadly within minutes of the performance online trolls and media commentators had something to say about her body. It’s one thing entirely to judge a performance but another to take a look at the performer’s body and critique that.

It’s not what she came for.

When Lady Gaga posted a response to the recent media interest in her body and the shamers, online publications went nuts with that too, sharing it and celebrating it. Or were they?


Interesting too, is that in the very same online post from US Weekly Sharing Lady Gaga’s response to the body shamers, the magazine had a link to click to see more “stars hot bodies”.

lady gaga screenshot US weekly

How, how are we able to on one hand highlight how Lady Gaga fought back against the body shamers, and in the very same article then place link bait to view more hot bodies. Magazines like US Weekly are not where intellectuals go for thought-provoking commentary (nor do they look to mommy blogs, I get it) but our children are reading this, not only our daughters but our sons too.

I speculated in a media segment last week that the majority of people who criticized Lady Gaga’s performance at the Superbowl were likely a very specific part of the population. Males, aged 20-60, not physically fit, not highly intelligent, and maybe married but likely to a woman not confident enough to voice her opinion. Sure, there are some women who take some kind of joy in pointing out flaws in celebrities, but I think my profile of the Lady Gaga body shamers holds true.

If I’m right, then as mothers we have an even bigger job to do. We know we have to teach our daughters to love their bodies and take pride in their bodies – whether that means working out to achieve the fit physique they desire or to strut their stuff in a bikini regardless of their weight on the scale. Self-love doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy our bodies in every shape and form – frankly the only person that needs to love our bodies is ourselves. A big task, I think – teaching our daughters to love their bodies knowing they are watching us when we love – and sometimes dislike – our own.

Next, we as mothers (and fathers too) need to teach our sons respect for a woman’s body. We preach the importance of consent, yet many of us don’t fight back when a grown man yells a sexual slur or insult to a woman. When a man trolls online and points out what’s “wrong” with a woman’s body, why do we stay silent? It’s bizarre when you think about it, no?


I shared this photo on Instagram today, after giving some thought to why it was important to share. Over the course of our one-week vacation in Mexico highlighting my 40th birthday, I posted a few bikini-bod shots on my Instagram. I’m in a celebratory mood after all, losing more than 25 pounds since the spring. Then there was the photo above taken with my daughter that I didn’t share. Why? Because inevitably I knew someone would point out the little belly roll and it wasn’t perfect. Instagram, we know, is often what we want others to see rather than what is true. We know 10 selfies are taken before we get the perfect one, and Snapchat filters are used more than ever before to blur out the imperfections.

Isn’t that absolutely ridiculous? That I could do all this work to improve my body yet still hide the fact that I have extra skin as the result of carrying three little lives inside me? More so that someone would find fault with that and a reason to point it out to their friends (if you think mommy bloggers are a tight bunch, let’s have coffee and chat about that high school cafeteria).

I made a promise to myself that I would start loving my body and that means every part of it, even the taco-belly-roll in Mexico. I love this picture of my 5-year-old and I, and I hope as she gets older it’s one of the pictures she treasures too. Our daughters and sons need to see women loving their bodies, every little bit, so that they are not the trolls online in years to come.

Surely those people have a lot of darkness in their lives, and I don’t want my children to be them.




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  • Glad you had a great January, Mojeto are good drinks, Yes, people are so quick to critisize someone body. I personaly though Lady gaga look good, I loved her performance and didn’t really pay attention to her body. She is so right we need to love our self in and out! I loss 12 pounds and I can’t tell you that the xtra skin is loose especialy my upper arm. I’m still going to wear t-shirt this summer.

  • While I think we are our own worst critics when it comes to our bodies; I cannot imagine being in the public eye and how hard it must be to seek “perfection” or be torn apart if you have any flaw.

    I personally think Lady Gaga looks AMAZING – I am pretty sure the majority of women out there would love to have her figure (I follow her on Snapchat – she works HARD for it too) … The critic of someone who looks like that definitely makes me MORE self conscious about my own self, I am afraid to say

    • Please don’t feel that way…no matter your size or weight, it matters how you feel inside about yourself that comes out to the world. I am overweight but I am still the same me I was when I was 2 babies lighter and 34 years younger! Enjoy the sunrise and every day above ground, don’t sweat the superficial stuff

  • It is so disgusting how someone feels the need to publicly shame someone over how they look.

    I grew up overweight, in a household where food was used as a sign of affection, a pacifier, a way to keep me quiet and happy. I was then shamed and name called by the same people who fed me. My peers rarely bullied me, surprisingly. It caused a lot of problems with my self esteem. As a teen I lost 60 pounds as was normal weight and my family praised me and showed me off and told everyone about it.

    As an adult I gained a lot of weight from overeating and being under-active, I was shamed continuously and felt horrible. I decided to do something about it and started eating healthy and started working out. I lost 115 pounds initially and I felt great…then came the shame about being too thin, looking “anorexic”. I feel like I constantly have to defend myself. I am constantly in a battle with my weight…I’ve gained back 20 or so pounds over the last few years and it really bothers me more than it should. I find it really hard to love my body. I’m trying, but it is hard work!

    All this shaming of celebrities not only affects the celebrities itself, but it shows people that the world is watching and judging. It shows people that they need to be perfect.

    You look awesome Tenille, and but I always thought you did even before your weight loss. You just seem a lot happier looking now 🙂

  • Great post! We live in an ugly world we just need to surround ourselves with positive people that will lift us up when the world tries to bury us! I just feel bad about people that bash others down to lift themselves up..something is obviously lacking in their life

  • I had the same thoughts when I saw the comments and even mentioned to my husband how unreal the entire body shaming conversation was. This is when I don’t like social media. I love it for many reasons but people often think it is reason to say anything they want. She looked pretty amazing to me. I mean did anyone watch her do the aero flips and such in her routine at the start. That takes muscles. People sometimes should just shut it instead of posting negative drivel.

  • Great post, and you should be very proud of your accomplishments, you look amazing! Not always easy to lose..
    Lady Gaga was amazing, and good for her for responding the way she did. She didn’t make it about her. 🙂