Can I just share how happy I am that October is finally here? September has been, undoubtedly, the hardest month of my life after losing my dad to cancer. Bringing with it an extremely busy month full of kid’s activities and commitments and I was ready to cancel out the rest of 2014 and become a hermit. The truth is, that’s just not possible, so I’ve had to figure out how to get things done, without losing myself in the process.
No one can be “on” all the time, so it’s a matter of figuring out where to best direct my energy (and how to avoid the things that drain my energy with little return). My example is one of daily life use, but it’s structured based on the philosophies and teaching from Betty Ann Heggie. In her latest blog post titled The Perfect Energy For Every Occasion, Betty Ann Heggie looks at how we can use either our Masculine or Feminine Energy for specific situations to get the best result.
Whether it is due to nature or nurture, the natural energy of most women is the collaborative, process-oriented Feminine Energy which focuses first on the collective. Yet, many are working in goal-driven, individualistic, command and control Masculine Energy environments.
This creates a disconnect, but consider it like traveling to a foreign land. If you are open to another’s culture, you can participate in it and even enjoy the experience. Energy patterns are the same. Once you are secure in your Feminine Energy you can travel to Masculine Energy territory, try it’s customs and incorporate those of value.
– Betty Ann Heggie, “The Perfect Energy For Every Occasion”
I love her analogy of traveling to a foreign land (especially since she’s currently traveling on the other side of the globe and making me jealous with gorgeous pictures like the one above from Cordoba, Spain!). Have you ever had a conversation with your spouse where you looked at him as though he were from another planet? Or better yet, maybe he looked at you that way? Sometimes a person’s reactions are so far off from what we expect that we feel that way. If we can learn how a person operates, how their “culture” as it were works, we’re better able to understand them and work with them.
The perfect energy for every occasion is there for you. Get to know what energizes you as an individual, consider it in the context of your preferred gender energy and access your complimentary energy to your advantage.
– Betty Ann Heggie, “The Perfect Energy For Every Occasion”
Are you having an ah-ha moment reading this? If so, or if you’re interested to learn more having been in that foreign land before, take a look at Betty Ann’s blog post and leave a comment below to enter our monthly contest!
Thanks for the great share! I enjoyed Betty Ann’s Blog about this and found myself laughing, shaking my head, and agreeing with it all at the same time. I feel I naturally operate my Feminine Energy, sharing powers and liking to serve. I’ve never been competitive and I married a man who lives to compete.
I totally get my energy from helping others. I am also very jealous that betty ann is travelling. I could use a vacay!
Depends on the day – both
I operate on a mix of both, sharing and serving but at the same time trying to get to the goal as quickly as possible.
I totally think i am a little bit of both ! Masculine Energy because i am motivated by competition but feminine because I like to serve
feminine
I’d say mainly Feminine. I don’t feel drawn to the Masculine and feel quite content to remain on the feminine side.
I am a little of both but do lean more on the feminine.
i think most days I am on my Feminine energy but there are days it is my masculine side.. Great blog thank you!
I have to rely on my feminine side to get the energy I need for the day.
i rely on my feminine side mostly, my hubby his masculine side so i try to respect his way and agree to disagree.
I must say I operate with both but most days, my Feminine energy gets me through!
Varies from day to day. I think you really need a balance of both to get you through different parts of the day.
I think both which I think is necessary in the field I work in. But I am not competitive in the slightest. Interesting article.
I would say a little of both because I run my own business. But mostly from the feminine side, i like to hear other’s opinions.
indeed the feminine side
I would say I operate on the feminine side.
I would say a little of both but guess would lean to the feminine site more, I am one who like to help people, to serve people
I have some of both but probably mroe masculine!
Definitely my masculine energy. I’m very competitive and goal oriented.
A little bit of both. Masculine at work and feminine in all other aspects of my life.
I’ve got a good balance of both masculine and feminine!
Definitely, my feminine energy. I am not very competitive or big on leadership roles.
definitely my feminine energy, it’s my stronger half by far.
p.s. i’m sorry to hear about your dad
I think I lean more toward the masculine energy at home but the feminine energy at work.
I lean towards feminine for sure
Both – and it really appears to depend on the day and the issue.
I think I operate from both, depending on what the environment is — e.g., family or work.
I’d say a bit of both depending on what I’m doing
I think I have a little of both
Masculine at work, because i gotta ‘get things done’, so i try Feminine at home to balance things out, but sometimes it’s hard to switch!
I would have to say both!!
I think I tend to operate more with the feminine energy of collaboration and sharing, but can channel masculine energy when trying to achieve goals that only allow for one person to succeed.
I would say both as I like to serve but I am also very competitive.
I have Feminine energy. Not very competitive at all…well, not with others, but sometimes with myself.
I definitely operate more from my feminine side.
I gotta admit I have some masculinity energies, I like to be in competition and I like to cut down to the chase and not waste time. But some beautiful femininity all around that 🙂
masculine (most of the time)
I most definitely work from my feminine side. I love keeping things equal and do not like competition of any kind. I like to help others.
I think I operate a bit from both, but my feminine side is probably a little stronger.
I operate from feminine energy
I would say a little of both but leaning more to the feminine
I would say more feminine – I like to serve and make people happy.
I operate mainly with my feminine energies, as the business I am in requires relationship building and maintenance. Occasionally, I need to call on my masculine energy, but using my feminine energy skill strategy is the most useful for me.
Feminine by far.
I operate on a mixture of both energies but I think that the feminine energy may be a little stronger.
a bit of both depending on the situation, but definitely more on the feminine side
I would say my masculine side. I have always worked in a male dominated role and I think that it has become my coping mechanism!
I think I operate from the feminine but with all the people I work with sometimes my masculine roars out.
I definitely operate on Feminine Energy
Masculine Energy – I work in a field dominated by men and my emotions sway that way too
feminine
I thought I was all feminine energy but after reading the article. I’d say I use both feminine and masculine energies equally.
masculine
I can be both competitive or yielding at times, depending on the circumstances at hand. So I’d say I use both energies as well.
feminine energy
I honestly don’t think I would pick a gender for energy. My energy is uniquely me and is separate from a gender identifier.
I operate on Feminine Energy.
I think I am more of a bit of both!
Masculine energy
Both energies, depending n the situation
I find I really balance both well on the most part…
The feminine side for sure.
Feminine Energy
Feminine Energy
I’d have to say my masculine energy
I operate on my feminine energy except for when I’m being sporty
feminine
feminine energy
I usually operate on feminine energy
Single parent here, so I have to do both, but love them both energy!!
Feminine
I operate on feminine energy.
I go back and forth but masculine energy would be dominant for me.
feminine energy
I’m more into the Feminine Energy.
Feminine Energy!
I generally use feminine energies most of the time.
I’d say a little bit of both for me!!
I operate my feminine energies
I use both feminine and masculine energies equally
I try to balance it out equally. Hubby works nights, and sleeps days so I kind of have no choice but to take on both energies.
I’d say both feminine and masculine energies equally.
I operate on both
Masculine energy here:)
I use each at different times but probably averages out to be equal.
a little bit of both
I operate on Feminine Energy most of the time.
Feminine energy most of the time…
I am totally feminine energy
I’m masculine energy. Masculine Energy is motivated by competition. That’s me. And Masculine Energy focuses on the goal and how to get there as quickly as possible. Yup, me again.
I definitely operate with masculine energy. Those operating from masculine Energy focus on the goal and how to get there as quickly as possible, and that summarizes me to a T.
feminine energy
I operate mostly from feminine energy. I wish it was more from masculine so I would be more focused
I am quite focused so I am masculine
Definitely both!
feminine energy for me
Feminine Energy 🙂
masculine
Masculine, it is more level I think.
As with all things, it depends on the situation. In the workplace I am more filled with masculine energy; I know my job and what needs to be done and I am a fairly solitary worker. However when problems arise in day-to-day life, I am likely to use feminine energy.
Masculine Energy here!
Yes i relate to the feminine.
I operate more from my feminine energy.
I operate on feminine energy 🙂
feminine
Masculine
More from my masculine
It’s feminine energy for me!! Thanks
on feminine energy 🙂
100% Masculine Energy
Feminine
I operate on feminine energy.
feminine
I mostly operate on my masculine energy.
I am more feminine. However, it depends on the situation
I use both energies.
maybe 65% fem, 35% masculine
Yes i relate to the feminine
Feminine
I operate on feminine energy
I naturally operate in life from my feminine energy and I have definitely bumped heads along the way trying my best to work alongside other females who operate with their male energy. It definitely can be a challenge! I get it!! 🙂
I’m in sales and I balance the two perfectly, bringing out either when the need be! 🙂
Masculine energy!
Feminine Energy, difficult to be both.
More so from Feminine Energy.
I operate on Feminine Energy and use my intuition to figure things out and plan ahead at times. It’s as if everything starts falling into place when I’m headed in the right direction and take along a few friends for the ride.
I definitely am more feminine energy- I rarely ever want or am driven by competition so I don’t think I have much masculenine energy in me haha
Feminine energy!
Feminine energy!
Feminine energy!
Masculine for sure!
hmm I have always been hyper as in go go go. BUT when I help others I get so excited to know that I can help others that it gives me more get up and go Some say I am too hyper BUT I get things done that I need to and more..I do both as I like to help others BUT at times the masculine side comes out as it is needed at times
Masculine Energy for sure
Feminine energy!
I think I tend towards the masculine, I think most Type A’s do!
I mostly operate on my masculine energy
Definitely more from my feminine energy.
I think mostly feminine 🙂
I operate from a feminine energy.
I think it’s a little of both for me.
I am feminine energy all day every day.
I use my feminine energy the most
masculine
I operate on feminine energy!!!!
Depends on the day – but more often than not – my masculine energy!
I think I am pretty much a balance
Feminine energy
Feminine, although masculine energy as well.
I definitely operate more from my feminine energy.
I use a bit of each energy depending on who I am dealing with and what the situation is. I prefer using the feminine but some situations call for the masculine.
I’d have to say feminine energy! Very interesting – great read!!
Have read Betty Ann Heggie’s blog on numerous occasions…..yes it rings true – definitely Masculine Energy. Just ask my son this morning – couldn’t find cell phone, misplaced our bus passes and spilt my coffee. My horoscope sign is Leo – so I roared like a lion – and off to work with a new perspective – *just shake it off*.
Eva Mitton-Urban
feminine energy for me.
I mostly use feminine energy
I would say feminine energy for me
I mostly use feminine energy