Do you often find yourself wistful about what could be? What had been? Have you been aware, more than once, that you’re focused on where you want to be rather than being in the moment you are? We all do it, as it’s a natural part of human nature to place ourselves in another moment and of course having goals is certainly a good way to focus. The problem occurs when we’re looking elsewhere not with goals but more so with jealousy and resentment.
Betty Ann Heggie’s latest blog post titled The Hidden Purpose of Adversity takes a look at how difficult moments are always teachable moments. She explains that adversity has taught her coping skills to make it through the tough times and admits that she’s envied those who seem to coast by without letting things affect them too much. I could certainly relate to that! My husband is one of those happy-go-lucky people who doesn’t let things phase him and is calm when dealing with a crisis. I, on the other hand, tend to turn stress into a catastrophe and spend far too much energy getting upset when I could be using that energy to focus. But how the heck does one focus when your instinct is to freak out, I wondered.
Betty Ann had some tips for that. She offers three pieces of advice on ways to be more in the moment which will in turn calm your spirit and give you the ability to focus rather than be busy looking elsewhere. Her blog post will further elaborate but I can say without question that my favorite was “Mind My Own Onions”. You’ll have to tell me if you agree after you read her post!
This month, we’re asking readers to take stock of your own life. Are you in the moment or always looking elsewhere? By reading her post and commenting, you will be entered to win $100 PayPal to put towards being more in the moment – what could you do with $100 to make that happen?
With my little guy I find I don’t enjoy the moment. I’m so busy trying to capture the present that it surpasses me. I want to learn how to have a healthy balance. I’m always thinking about the next thing to capture so as not to miss it.
Mind My Own Onions – stop judging others,
For me it is definitely Walk in Nature. Sometimes being cooped inside makes me a little stir-crazy and grumpy, especially while trying to entertain an active toddler. Just getting outside makes me feel better. So glad the nicer weather is here, so we can get out more often.
Luckily, my puppy makes me walk in nature every day. However, sometimes I rush it and don’t pay attention to the beauty around me. I need to make more of an effort to enjoy my surroundings while I walk in nature.
Mine favorite is mind your own onions. Although they all are important in my life. After having. A serious life changing surgery. Afterwards I was lost. I suffered depression and anxiety. To help me one thing I did was take a course on mindfulness and by doing this course it helped bring me back to myself. I now am happy and living my life to the best of my ability. <3
probably mind my own onions…i am pretty outspoken, and sometimes it would probably be good if i wasn’t so outspoken all the time lol
Mind my own onions is a great point. To me the other 2 seem a little fluffy…. just my opinion.
The walk in nature inspires me, I often find I am more relaxed and positive after walking the dogs.
I like the Walk in Nature aspect. I try to do that myself every day to experience nature.
I am happy to live in such a beautiful city so the walk in the nature aspect really resonates with me. I’m stuck in the lab everyday so walks really allow me to appreciate and observe life!
Mind my own onions!
The technique I liked best is to “Walk in Nature”. Right now I strive to do this on a daily basis.
Mind my own onions i like this one best
i like the idea of walking in nature.
“Walk In Nature” definitely appeals to me! I LOVE being outdoors, and I especially love watching animals. I’m excited that I’ll be spending most of the summer outdoors for my job, and will definitely be appreciating my many “walks in nature.” Thanks for the great giveaway!
“Mind my own onions” for sure. Several times a day I tel my 3 year old to mind her own business but really I am the one getting involved in everyone elses. Need to heed some of my own advice.
I think for me it would be Walk in Nature. I try to be outside as much as possible but could get out there a lot more and enjoy what is there.
I really like and could use the Walk in Nature tip!
indeed the nature trip, so many amazing beautiful things around us
I like the Mind My Own Onions one – very important!
I like Walk in Nature. I love the outdoors and feel most comfortable when I am outside. I try to walk daily or do something outside like eat my lunch on the deck just to feel that connection. My favourite is to walk near the ocean. It feels so peaceful, yet refreshing.
I like Walk in Nature, I try to go for a long walk at least once a day and especially enjoy it at this time of year when the trees and plants are coming back to life!
Walk in Nature rings true to me, I can do this at least once a week to clear my head and reconnect to my soul.
I like the advice to Activate Senses and hope to incorporate it daily.
Mind my own onions is a great point
I would have to say Activate Senses, just the smell of fresh cut grass or spring rain can put me right in a calm peaceful mood
I like Mind My Own Onions. We all have opinions, but it doesn’t really change anything. So much more important to just live in the moment.
walk in nature!! i walk outside regularly with my daughter but i never talk the time to take the nature and everything surrounding me in
mind my own onions….i have so many weeds…lol….but really i find it’s easy to get caught up and worked up in others business, i try to focus on the here and now which is really the important thing….
I love Activate Senses- In fact, I have a nice fragrance candle lit right now and it really relaxes me.
Walking in nature, as I usually take a walk each day.
Walk in Nature is wonderful. I love going for a walk but I need to do it more often.
my favorite is walk in nature this always helps me clear my mind and relax
Walk in Nature – now that summer is starting to peak out – I want to get the kids outside everyday for even a few minutes of fresh air – hopefully many walks to the playground!
My favourite is Mind My Own Onions. Growing up in a small town, I was used to getting judge. I would judge others as well. I need to apply “Mind My Own Onions” to my life.
Mind My Own Onions applies to me as I work in a very gossipy workplace.
Love the mind my own onions. I live in a small town and so this can be hard!
Mind My Own Onions, need to practice this every day!
I seem to be the odd one out.. I would say Activate Senses means the most to me and lets get off autopilot. Remind yourself where you are and what this moment is about.
Activate Senses. I have to take a moment or two to appreciate what is around me.
Mind my own Onions (but sometimes it’s very hard to do, not that I’m opinionated, but that I’m almost always correct). LOL
I like Walk in Nature – I always find that taking a walk outside always helps me to relax and recenter myself on what is important.
I like Walk In Nature. A walk in the fresh air always helps to center me.
I like the tip to Walk in Nature. This is a great reminder because it’s true that I always feel good when I get out for a nature walk.
I really like the Mind My Own Onions I can see using this in my life.
Walk in Nature. It is a great way to think and get things out of your system when frustrated about something.
I love “Walk in Nature”. I am at my most relaxed state when I am outside, connecting with nature. I need to do it more often!
“mind my own onions” – i thought it was such a neat way of putting it.
Honestly all of these techniques are great especially getting out in nature and meditating i think would greatly help me in my life to live in the moment!
Walk in Nature..I need to do that
I liked the mind my own onions.
I would have to choose Mind My Own Onions. Mindfulness and trying to be non-judgemental is a big part of ‘Managing Emotions’ and ‘Cognitive Behavioural Therapy’…2 therapies that I take.
Activate Senses.
Walk in nature
Walk in Nature. So important to do as it’s such a relief from the daily grind of work and errands…
I definitely agree with mind your own onions. Although it doesn’t come naturally, I really try to abide by this one. It seems like nowadays people spend so much time comparing and judging and neither of those things can possibly bring you joy.
Walk in nature because it always helps me to hear birds chirping, to feel a light breeze and to see greenery and a blue sky.
Walk in nature
Walk in Nature. I love going out and taking a walk.
Walk in Nature.
I love to walk in nature ♥ I have been doing so wether it is in the sun, rain or snow! ☺
Walk in woods
I liked “Mind My Own Onion.” I think I spend too much time worrying about how I appear to others and judging others. It is time to focus on the self and the present.
Walk in nature. I find this is one of the single most soothing things I can do when I am stressed out! Even just lie in the grass
I agree with and like “Walk in nature”
Mind my own onions!
Walk in Nature it helps me think.
Go for a walk in nature. So important to stop and smell the roses! Be amazed by all that is around us. I was ecstatic today as there was a hummingbird in my yard. How amazing are those!
I like Mind my own Onions…Start by accepting that where you are now is where you are meant to be.
Walk in Nature – watching the leaves in the trees move is such a good way to clear your head.
Activate Senses is a form of mindfulness that I have been practising alot lately! It’s very grounding…
Walk in nature
Walk in Nature
Walk in Nature helps us get out and enjoy our area and teach our 6 month old about life, health and the great outdoors!
Nature walks or just walking in general is a good technique to clear your mind.
Definitely walk in nature!
i like the Walk in Nature tip. It’s the one I’d get the most happiness from. It really goes hand in hand with #2 – Activate Senses so it’s very much giving you two for one there.
Minding my own onions is something I try to do daily!! It takes work but it’s been getting easier. Focusing on the here & now of my family and not the what ifs’ or what the “jones” are up too is rewarding.
I love the Walk in Nature tip.
Definitely minding your own beeswax!~ Focusing on your own life not trying to one up someone elses.
I liked the walk in nature. There is something special about the outdoors. Plus, a huge part of the wonder is using your senses in a new way.
Definitely walk in nature to help me clear my mind
Walk in nature. Its one of my favorite things to do!
walk in nature for sure.
that’s a goal to get outdoors every day
Of the three techniques, I like the Walk In Nature the best. The sights and sounds of nature are unique.
I always feel like Im being judged by people and I sometimes find myself doing the same thing sometimes. I need to mind my onions more and also not let what others say bother me so much.
definitely being outside makes me feel better, but minding my own onions is much more applicable. I do try but I like the way she worded it 😉
I really like Activate Senses. It would be something that would help me be present in the moment and really take pleasure and enjoy what I’m actually doing. So much of life seems to just disappear in the blink of an eye and I think this would really help find joy in the little things more.
I like Walk in Nature.
walk in nature for sure! its very comforting to me and I believe this would help drastically!
walk in nature – i already do this – i love walking the trails, it allows me to clear my mind; sometimes i savour the moment, other times i day dream
Walk in nature – the quiet is restorative for me.
Walk in nature
Walking in Nature because I am always in an urban setting and a change in environment can help de-stress me (:
A walk in nature. Whether that be on a trail or just around the neighborhood, I too seem to be relaxed once I’ve realized I’ve hit the first stop sign. Stop, breathe & carry on. Whichever I am doing, I prefer to stroll.
Nature does help one reflect upon the realities… maybe its the quietness instead of all of the interruptions and noise.
Walk in nature. Clear your mind.
I like Walk in Nature, so important for adults but for kids as well and great to apply to parenting
I like the activate your senses tip. It really drags me back into the moment when I stop to feel the grass under my feet or smell the flowers blooming
walk in nature, it’s so good to get away from everything electronic if even for an hour
i liked the walk in nature technique!
i am activate senses.
Walk in nature.
Activate Senses.