Recently, I read a blog post from one of my mentors, Betty-Ann Heggie, that highlighted the characteristics of people who have that IT factor. You know who they are – the people who captivate a room, who glow from the inside, and who seem to have it all together. We want to be around them. We want to BE them.
What characteristics do people like this demonstrate?
It’s all about presence, explains Betty-Ann.
“Presence simply comes to those who know who they are on the inside and have the courage to act upon it in the outside world. They seek out, and are aware of, that which has meaning and then pursue it with passion. It is this authenticity that attracts others to them.”
While many people can appear charismatic, a phony can be spotted a mile away – and no one likes a phony. We know when something is off and despite that person’s best attempts, we aren’t wooed.
To achieve true presence, we need to get out of our own way. Betty-Ann explains it in such a way that it feels like a recipe for success, a process to build it and create something hot out of the oven!
We get more by doing more, especially when we rise to the occasion to accept a challenge. All actions become easier with practice, and eventually, we will acquire competence. Still, confidence alone is not enough to manifest presence. It must be motivated by and reinforced with caring and compassion. When we connect with others in a way that makes both parties feel good we will feel the glow.
Of course, this isn’t inherently easy or everyone would achieve it. Betty-Ann agrees, saying that presence would fetch a high price could it be bottled and sold but for most, acquiring this equanimity proves elusive. Perhaps having her recipe for success, explained further in her blog post here, will be just the key for someone reading this.
I’m trying to embrace Betty-Ann’s advice in getting out of my own way, by getting out of my own head! I wanted to find a way to gain presence and am trying yoga for the first time ever. I can’t touch my toes, am terribly uncoordinated, and feel like a giraffe among little birds, but I’m doing it! It’s definitely a way to get those negative voices out of my head, when it’s time to center and focus. Namaste!
Do you know someone who has presence? Who captivates a room, an online following even, or someone who you admire because they radiate a love and passion for what they do? What are you doing to get in the way of yourself doing that too? How can you work to get out of your own way? Betty-Ann looks at all of this in her latest blog post here, and we’ve got a giveaway to get the discussion going below!
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